In my group of friends there is no other subject like birth that can bring to the surface joy and fear, regret and judgment.
We women take the births of our children seriously and to have someone sit in judgment of our experience is insulting. I often find that women are still sorting through their own birth expereinces years after their children are born trying to make sense of it all. So it's no wonder that when we sit around someone's living room wine glass in hand retelling these stories, we feel some need to justify our choices if not to each other, to ourselves. [more]